You may think this post is trite. I assure you it is not. In this post I’m sharing a critical element of healing
from any “dis-ease” including cancer. We’ve said before that “laughter is the best medicine”; that moving lymphatic fluid ‘drains our inner swamp’; that deep breathing is an enemy of cancer; and that our body and soul (mind, will, emotions) are irrefutably connected. Within what I am referring to as “the whimsical” are elements of all these powerful healing practices–without the possible “bondage” of making sure you are doing this right or not forgetting to do that twice a day, etc. NONE of what I’ve shared with you in book or blog is meant to be “bondage”. You can be content in any situation (as Paul said he was even in prison) and disease can feel like a prison keeping us from “our lives” ; however, taking the next step to being whimsical may seem “too much of a stretch” for some situations. It never is because fun keeps you from taking yourself too seriously.
I observe that, in many cases, if a wife is being attacked by cancer, husbands will try to fight the fight for them over-acting “the whimsical”. It’s an idea, I’m sure, rooted in love (and unfortunately sometimes in fear and denial); however, I’ve also observed that ONLY the one actually under physical attack from a disease can initiate “the whimsical”. The family might “sneak up on the attack” by bringing the “sick person” into whimsical family activity like doodling in tablets with markers or crayons and passing the tablets around every few minutes so that another person is working on what you started and sharing these usually funny pictures once each person has had a turn on each tablet. (That’s a paper tablet not a computer tablet of course.) If adults won’t do this with you, find some children.
Simple, whimsical, activities need not tire anyone, but they can distract all involved from trying to act like they aren’t thinking of the “elephant in the living room”–the sickness challenge going on. The entire family can benefit from the distraction.
In my book, Slam the Door on Cancer, there’s a small section called “Don’t Forget the Whimsical”. Here’s that short excerpt with a few added thoughts:
‘Don’t Forget the Whimsical’ (of which “Free Art” is an important part).
I’m compelled to make you aware of the healing impact of “free” art and music in healing. You may not consider
yourself an artist – but you are. I recommend you get a small sketchbook and some markers or crayons and spend time doodling. If you can turn on some music that will flow through your soul without calling attention to itself, it absolutely will emit strong positive vibrations. Just move the crayon or marker and get lost in it.
Begin with no pre-conceived ideas and expect nothing. Start with drawing a shape or even a couple of lines . . . God will show up. You may “see” things in your “free play” sketches days later– images that help your soul heal. I’ve know folks to actually realize the probable emotional root that’s allowed the disease attack as they have looked through their “free art pieces”.
If you ever played a musical instrument, maybe you could pick it back up . . . just for you. Or,you could get your hands on an inexpensive ukulele or harmonica and learn a tune or two for fun. At least, get a kazoo but get two because someone else will want to join you. Breath deeply when you “play” harmonica or kazoo remembering our earlier discussions of its importance.
Try silly stuff like these things and you will be amazed how healing it is. If the folks around you scoff at silliness, do it anyway. They aren’t the bosses of you and, besides, fun is contagious. Get back to who “you” are by remembering “you” are not your body. You are a spirit with a soul living in a body. God is a fun God always in a good mood. When I learned to play and laugh with God, my healing took an actual “quantum leap”.
Soon we will have a guest post regarding the “Cancer Type Personality” and I think you will find this post underscores the importance of loosening up one’s personality for beating this “dis-ease”.